Find and Bless the Missing Pieces

imageWith each loved one’s death,

With each goodbye,

I feel like I have lost a part of myself.


How can this be? I am still here.

I am still whole.

“What part of me is missing?” I ask.


Is this part of me lost forever?


“Find your way back to the missing part of yourself”

says Sister Priest Friend Alla in

“Life is Goodbye, Life is Hello” *


You gave a piece of yourself to another

And now it is time to “reclaim” it.


Reclaim… “to retrieve or recover.”

That is the essence of grief.


Find the missing pieces,

Bless them. Reclaim them.


This is not betrayal, it is healing.

It is the way back to wholeness.


By The Rev. Mary Anne Dorner

March 30, 2016


*Reference to “Life is Goodbye, Life is Hello: Grieving Well

Through all Kinds of Loss” by Alla Renee Bozarth, p. 25






2 thoughts on “Find and Bless the Missing Pieces

  1. Carole says:

    I have lost 3 people within a months time (this includes Chuckie) one a neighbor, (younger than me) and lastly a childhood friend 2 years older than me from a massive stroke ( he also was married to my cousin.) thanks for this, it was a good reminder. Love, Carole


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